Having Trouble with Your Erection?

Are you having erection dysfunction issues in Charlotte? Don’t be afraid to ask your partner for help and support. Finding a good time to discuss the problem, learning more about the problem together, going to doctor’s appointments together, and expressing your love in other ways besides sexual intercourse can all be helpful.

If these don’t help, it might be time to see a sex therapist for your erection problems. Before you take that step, let’s talk about the signs of erectile dysfunction (ED):

  • Can’t get an erection
  • Can’t keep an erection long enough for a satisfactory sexual interaction
  • Can’t get or keep an erection while intoxicated
  • Having softer erections than normal
  • Having reduced sensitivity in the penis region
  • Ruled out a medical condition by a urologist
  • Tried more than one prescription ED medication

Age, Illness, Anxiety: Reasons Erections Change

There could be many reasons why your erection is not the same as it used to be.

With age, your body changes, blood moves more slowly and the strength of your erection may decline.

Erection dysfunction in Charlotte can also be linked to health problems. Conditions associated with ED include:

  • high blood pressure,
  • diabetes,
  • heart disease,
  • high cholesterol and
  • others.

Substance abuse or alcohol consumption can alter your body’s functioning as well. It’s also normal to experience a soft erection when under stress or facing a worrisome decision—whether the situation is associated with sex or not.

Diet and prescription anti-depressants can be factors as well.

Three Ways Sex Therapy Can Help Erection Issues

  1. In sex therapy, we discuss the 10 Myths Surrounding Male Arousal and Performance, such as:
    • “Touching means you want sex”
    • “A man is always ready for sex” and
    • Good sex is spontaneous with no planning or talking”

Debunking these myths openly with your partner and therapist can greatly improve communication around intimacy.

  1. We also explore whether you are experiencing one or more of the five psychological states often associated with ED:
    • depression anxiety
    • guilt
    • marital discord and/or
    • sexual trauma

Victims of adult-child sexual abuse are three times more likely to experience ED than others.

  1. Sensate Focus Exercises are an excellent way to reduce the pressure of sexual expectation and increase intimacy.

With the guide of a therapist, couples are encouraged to be intimate (in the privacy of their own bedrooms) with touch, embracing the warmth of each other’s skin and kissing, without necessarily having intercourse.

My Charlotte clients have found therapy is often successful in restoring long-lasting erections.

There is More to Intimacy than Penetration

But there more to intimacy than sexual intercourse. Penis-in-vagina sex is not the most common way for women to achieve orgasm, so your partner may be delighted if you focus on other ways of pleasuring her.

Working with your partner and therapist, you can build a deeper, more satisfying sexual relationship, whether or not your erectile function returns to what it was before.