Premature ejaculation, or PE as it is called, is one of the most common issues sex therapists address. PE occurs when a man reaches orgasm, but ejaculates too soon without control. The condition can lead both partners to feel ashamed or frustrated. These feelings can...
Couples are understandably often reluctant to seek sex therapy. It can be embarrassing and awkward to talk about intimate issues. It takes being open to changing what may be long-held beliefs and deeply-ingrained behaviors. And people are afraid it won’t work. But in most cases,...
One common expectation for sex therapy is that you will “fall in love all over again” and it will be “like you just met.” This is unrealistic. It can’t be “like it was in the beginning” because you are not who you were in the...
You just found out your spouse has cheated. What now? Trust is the very foundation of marriage and when it is shaken, it can feel like repair is not possible. But an affair doesn’t have to mean divorce. Infidelity help is one of the most...
How do you keep the excitement going, day after day, year after year? It takes deciding you want to, intentionally focusing on one another, and making Together Time a habit. Little things help. Set the coffee maker to start when your spouse gets up. Sneak...
If you have a low- or no-sex marriage, you certainly are not alone. According to a 2009 New York Times article, some 15% of couples often go six months or longer with no sexual activity. How many of these couples are fine with a lack...
You’ve tried everything and decided divorce is the answer. Problem solved, right? Not so fast. Divorce leaves scars that need to heal before you can productively move on. A sex therapist can make the divorce journey easier. We address all the issues of relationships, including...
One of the most common questions men ask in my sex therapy practice is, “Is my penis too small?” Many men worry about this, perhaps because very few actually know what a normal penis looks like outside of what they see on pornography—which vastly distorts...
The short answer is neither. But there is a connection between depression and a healthy sex life. Self-pleasuring is completely normal and healthy. It has many mental and physical benefits: because of the feel-good hormones released during orgasm, masturbation can boost one’s mood (temporarily), help...
Like many other so-called “bad habits,” pornography isn’t a problem unless it is causing problems in your life. If you eat a big bowl of ice cream every night and can’t get your weight under control, maybe you need to cut back on the ice...