How do you keep the excitement going, day after day, year after year? It takes deciding you want to, intentionally focusing on one another, and making Together Time a habit. Little things help. Set the coffee maker to start when your spouse gets up. Sneak...
If you have a low- or no-sex marriage, you certainly are not alone. According to a 2009 New York Times article, some 15% of couples often go six months or longer with no sexual activity. How many of these couples are fine with a lack...
You’ve tried everything and decided divorce is the answer. Problem solved, right? Not so fast. Divorce leaves scars that need to heal before you can productively move on. A sex therapist can make the divorce journey easier. We address all the issues of relationships, including...
One of the most common questions men ask in my sex therapy practice is, “Is my penis too small?” Many men worry about this, perhaps because very few actually know what a normal penis looks like outside of what they see on pornography—which vastly distorts...
The short answer is neither. But there is a connection between depression and a healthy sex life. Self-pleasuring is completely normal and healthy. It has many mental and physical benefits: because of the feel-good hormones released during orgasm, masturbation can boost one’s mood (temporarily), help...
Like many other so-called “bad habits,” pornography isn’t a problem unless it is causing problems in your life. If you eat a big bowl of ice cream every night and can’t get your weight under control, maybe you need to cut back on the ice...
Vaginismus is the painful involuntary spasming or contracting of the vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse. It can also happen when you try to insert a tampon or have a Pap test. Because it can interfere with your intimate relationships and quality of life, you should...
How To Break Up With Your Phone One of the most common complaints that comes up in couple’s therapy these days is “You’re always on your phone.” There is even a term for when someone is scrolling their phone instead of interacting with the person...
“The overbearing mother-in-law” is a cliche for a reason. In therapy we see the same problems arise again and again. Even seemingly small issues can be detrimental to your relationship with your partner if they fester and are never addressed. Here are some common patterns...
One day in 1987 American psychologist Dr. Francine Shapiro was on a walk when she noticed her eyes rapidly moving side to side as she recalled a distressing memory. Her negative emotions seemed to dissipate as her eyes darted back and forth. By combining classical...