Sexual Needs and Desires: Am I Normal?

A lot of patients believe that their sexual problems are solely their own. Sure, we’re all unique in our way. Everyone has a different upbringing and unique experiences in life. Although, you might be surprised at how many individuals share the same type of sexual dysfunction in the bedroom. For starters, let’s dive into some of the most common questions clients have asked in regard to their sexuality. These questions make some people feel as if they’re weird and that nobody could understand them.

Why Do I Think About Sex All the Time?

Of course, its normal to think about sex. Whether it’s often or once in a while, a daydream or two about sex is nothing to be ashamed of. There’s also a tall tale statistic that, on average, men think about sex about every seven seconds of their waking hours. Although, for women it seemed to be less by comparison. If you find yourself thinking about sex almost all day, it might be time to seek help from a professional sex therapist. There could be an underlying issue as to why sex is keeping your waking mind occupied for most of the day.

How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Stop Watching Porn?

Although some people find it offensive, everyone has partaken in some sort of pornographic viewing at some point in their lives. Was it a graphic novel? An implied sexual scene at a movie screening? Perhaps it was a total accident. Porn is still a very touchy subject today. Now, when it comes to sexual relationships, are both parties comfortable watching porn? Is your partner asking you to re-enact some of those porn scenes to fulfill his desire? A healthy sexual relationship needs honesty and communication. If your partner is watching porn at work or at times that are considered indecent, give Kim Ronk a call in Charlotte, NC. Porn addiction is not considered an official diagnosis, but it has a lot of similarities to substance abuse.

How Can I Introduce Sex Toys into The Bedroom?

Almost everyone is born with sexual needs. Masturbation can be frowned upon in some cultures or societies, although the health benefits are outstanding. If you’ve ever had the experience of using a sex toy for your own pleasure, there’s nothing to be ashamed of! You’re taking care of your sexual health. Now, what if you have a new partner or want to try new sex toys in the bedroom with a spouse? There can definitely be some anxiety just thinking about how to pose the question to your partner. Here are a few tips:

  • Choose the right place and time to intimately talk about sexual pleasure
  • Reassure them that a sex toy is not going to replace them in the bedroom
  • Shop for sex toys together and see what options would benefit both of you
  • Encourage them to try a toy on their own, gift them a sex toy
  • Show them how to use the adult toy and where to use it on you
  • Have fun and make sure to communicate