Many of my clients have expressed those very words stated above to me, in the privacy of my office. Sex is great. Sex is the private and intimate connection in which we can share monogamously with our chosen partner. Our soulmate. Of course, there are others who share this with multiple partners, with all due respect. Now, what happens when that special connection gets lost? There are many reasons as to why a relationship or marriage has become sexless. My clients come from all over the map. Whether you’ve been married for 6 months or 33 years, I’m here to help you find that spark back. The most important thing to remember is that both partners must fully commit to getting better and communicating their thoughts or concerns. Honesty is the lubrication we’re looking for. Pun intended.
The Faster You Seek Help, The Better Results
For most couples who seek therapy in the bedroom, it can take a lot to begin the process. If you’re comfortable with going to a therapist who specializes in relationships, sexual dysfunction, and married life, I’m glad you’re here! If your partner or spouse would feel weird to think about going to sex therapy, then you need a plan. It’s not easy to sit down and face the problem when it involves how much sex you’re not having anymore. A few tips for first timers:
- Talk at the correct time and place (in private, at home or in a safe space)
- Write down talking points about how you’re feeling and how a sexless marriage affects you both
- Make sure you get the point across and then remain patient as you hear your partner’s opinion
- Did you make a list of sex therapists in the Charlotte area? Share those with your partner
- Tell them how much you love them and how meaningful a therapy session can be for your future