Positives Outweigh Negatives with Moderate Masturbation

unmade bedThe endorphins released from masturbation can improve your mood and promote relaxation. It’s not a cure for clinical depression, but the release of dopamine and oxytocin do more to alleviate depression and anxiety than to cause it. Negative neuroses surrounding masturbation often have more to do with cultural influences encouraging shame.

  • Not only can masturbation provide relaxation, it can help you connect with your mind and body. Meditative breathing and mindfulness can be incorporated, and connecting with your body gives self awareness and confidence that can improve chemistry with your partner.
  • A sex therapist can help if negative feelings of guilt and shame are preventing you from exploring the safest sex there is.

Masturbation in moderation

  • As with anything, you can have too much of a good thing. If time spent masturbating starts to pull you away from work commitments, family, friends and appointments, it might be time to address the pattern of anxiety and compulsion.
  • Masturbation is healthy and normal even if you are in a committed relationship. It can become a point of contention if one partner doesn’t want the other doing it, or if they feel neglected because of it. Some turn to masturbation as an alternative to sex with their partner, because it can be less emotionally complicated than sex within a relationship if that relationship is suffering from unresolved issues and resentment between partners. A couples therapist can help you address those issues so that both parties are comfortable with sex, alone and together.