Is My Penis Too Small? Overcoming Size Insecurities

Pop culture has put such a value on penis size, anyone sporting an imagined smaller-than average package could face a lifetime of shame and anxiety surrounding their sex life.

It is so common for men to worry that their penis might not be large enough–especially when they feel pressure from seeing large male genitals in pornography–that the condition has a name: Small Penis Syndrome.

Even though the vast majority of penises are perfectly functional and within the range of “normal,” people with this syndrome obsessively worry. They constantly compare theirs to other penises, including those in the media. No evidence to the contrary will cause them to believe their penis is normal.

Some men even have trouble having sex with a partner because of anxiety about their penis’ size. This can be a self-fulfilling prophesy, reducing the ability to get an erection or have an orgasm.

Does Your Partner Have a Problem with Your Penis?

Probably not. Let’s take a moment to recognize some advantages of having a less-than-massive member:

One: Men Who Think They Have a Smaller Penis are Often Better at Oral Sex

Not to encourage inferiority complexes, but it is not uncommon for less-endowed men to make considerable efforts brushing up on oral-sex skills in order to compensate for equipment they fear is inadequate. Increased focus on your partner’s pleasure is always greatly appreciated.

Two: Less is Often More For Your Partner

Many women will tell you that riding a large penis can be painful. Grinding a small penis during intercourse, however, allows the clitoris constant contact with the man’s pelvic bone, increasing the likelihood of the woman climaxing.

Confidence and Connection Matter More Than Size

A sex therapist can help men facing insecurities regarding penis size. Many women would agree that the “motion of the ocean” is more important than the “size of the boat,” to borrow the popular phrase.

Being in tune with your partner and feeling confident with your sexual self are more important qualities than size. Couple’s therapy can help you deepen your connection with your partner, which can in turn enhance your chemistry in the bedroom.

In therapy, you get in touch with your own and your partner’s sexual needs and desires, and learn new ways to communicate them. You practice techniques to make your partner feel loved and appreciated. All kinds of insecurities, including those around penis size, evaporate when you are emotionally closer to your partner.