It is unfortunate that we have a stigma about sex therapy in our society, particularly because therapy is usually successful. The majority of couples who seek professional help find solutions. And the sooner they reach out, the better their chance of improving their sex life.
How Sex Therapy Works
In love relationship conflicts, as with many problems, many couples don’t have effective tools. Repeating square-peg-in-a-round-hole fixes over and over only leads to anger and frustration. Sex counseling breaks the pattern:
- In therapy, a trained, unbiased professional takes a 360-degree look at your issues
- Therapy gets to the root of your problems
- Your therapist will refer you to medical specialists if needed
- Therapy teaches you to relate in a new, more productive way
Experienced therapists are familiar with most sexual issues, and have proven ways to address each of them. Every relationship is different, but the most effective methods of resolving sexual problems can be adapted for many couples.
After talking with each of you separately to learn your perspective and your sexual history, the counselor makes a plan consisting of talk therapy in their office and hands-on home exercises. You report your progress or setbacks at every session, and changes are made to the plan as necessary.
Therapy works when both parties want it to, and believe it will enough to do the work assigned. It only makes sense that practicing new, more caring ways of relating, and devoting time and energy to resolving difficulties will diminish or dissolve your roadblocks.
Once you have been to a few sex therapy sessions, you will most likely wonder why the stigma kept you from coming sooner. You don’t have to tell anyone you are seeing a therapist, but if you choose to, you may be surprised at how many of your friends and family have gotten help in the past.